I am one woman surrounded by 3 males. My 1st born is 18, my baby is 14 and my husband is 46. My children have many years of learning interaction with mom. They know what it means to say "If momma ain't happy, no one is happy" and with some minor exceptions they strive to keep this momma happy. My husband, on the other hand, is apparently not this smart. He has his moments of absolute clarity and wisdom. I wish he had more though. If his actions were to be the basis for all of MAN-kind then all men would be fighting an up hill battle! I can say that I do not "get" the male psyche. I know for sure that I am not the only woman on this planet that feels this way. I might be, however, the only woman in my tightly knit circle of friends that will actually blog about adventures in husbandry survival. Oprah has said "the toughest job is being a mom" or something like that. And she is so right. Being a mom requires the patience of Job and the wisdom of the Universe.
While some women are striving to get to the top of the food chain in this otherwise dog eat dog world, Mothers were born at the top of the chain and will stop at nothing to ensure their children take their rightful place. This sometimes means having to kick other players off the field to widen the pathway to the goal. Mothers have mastered being able to simultaneously wash clothes, cook dinner, clean house, and get to the soccer game or dance recital. Mothers sleep when the work is done but since the work is never done......... Mothers are teachers, doctors, coaches, cabbies, psychiatrists, chefs, stain wranglers, veterinarians, seamstresses, referees, firefighters, and CFO's of any household. Why we devote only one day in May to honor Mothers deserves reflection! If any man could get pregnant, carry to term and then go through labor and all it's challenges I am certain that women would be revered as nothing short of amazing.
While men are hardwired to hunt and gather and protect, they fall short of realizing their success is due largely to the woman who stands quietly and patiently behind him. It's a little like those cartoons where the big scary dog is going to square off with the tiny innocent little kitten. Unbeknownst to the kitten, there is a HUGE lion behind it and the dog runs away tail tucked and yipping in fear. The differences between men and woman have always been defined as men being "superior" over women. And while science has proven that men have stronger upper bodies, thicker skin and skulls and that women have 4 times more brain cells then men making it easier for women to problem solve better, it fails to explain why men will always seek their mother's comfort, their mother's home cooking. Why men will always shout "HI MOM"!! when they're on TV.
I leave you with this: Without women we'd all still be using leaves to wipe our butts, blowing our noses in our hands, chewing with our mouths hanging open, etc. Roger Ebert said: "Women are nicer than men. There are exceptions. Most people of both sexes are probably fairly nice, given the nature of their upbringing and opportunities. But in terms of their lifelong natures, women are kinder, more empathetic, more generous. And the sooner more of them take positions of power, the better our chances as a species."
Where the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, the path to a woman's heart lays in a man's reliability and responsibility. Let the women, the true professionals, carve a place in this world without obstruction. Let the women tend to matters of finances, religion, politics, child bearing and raising, education, and long-term survival. Men have long dominated these fields but few could do so without the support of a woman---a mother. Simply put, men are only as good as their mother made them.
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